7 Ways to Manage your Vibe + 3 Ways to Manage Overwhelm

Those of you who practice the law of attraction know by now that it’s not just your thoughts that are important to watch,  it’s your vibe (energy you bring to what you are creating) where it all starts.

This came up again today on an amazing forum I’m a part of, where we are sharing our best practices, i.e., what we do to bring up our vibe / energy to high levels and how we can maintain them. 

I KNOW some of you have similar questions so I’m sharing what I shared on the forum and hope you’ll be inspired to find some ways that work for YOU too.

In which you Know What You Are Good At & Acknowledge It: 

For e.g.: What I do really really well is follow my fun, take inspired action and do what feels good! If that means not leaving the house for 2 days, so be it. If it means baking cakes at 10pm and eating half of it, I do it. If it means waiting till the last minute to make a decision, I do and it works out perfectly!

Sometimes it can feel like your inside child / teenager is running the show and all you do is make sure she/he has the space and freedom to follow her heart. Let them rule for a bit and see what happens.   

Action: Take a piece of paper or open a word document and write down ALL the things you are good at. 

In which you Learn Quick Fun Ways to Manage Your Vibe:

It MORE than helps to keep in mind that feeling good is what counts and will lead you to what you want.

#1 Gratitude and appreciation are big

 Wherever you are, look around and find something to appreciate. Usually something you take for granted that you’d really miss if it wasn’t around. E.g.: When I’m in the kitchen I’ll look at my microwave and smile cos I’m so happy to have it! And the green doors, the flowers my friend got me, the cute orange rug – I REALLY love and appreciate all my stuff everyday!  

# 2 This can lift your vibe sky high:

 put on a collection of happy songs (Like Pharrell Williams, Happy) and do a happy skippy dance or sing out REALLY loud to them. As you do, thank the Universe for your perfect life, awesome new home, fabulous clients, gorgeous bf/gf, promotion at work and everything else you have or are manifesting.  

#3 Take out stuff you kinda like or are tolerating 

– you know, those things that don’t make you happy looking at them (like old clothes you no longer like, papers all around, the cushion covers that need to R.I.P) – and let ‘em GO. Give/throw/sell. It’s a GREAT way to feel lighter and happier and you’ll be creating space for what REALLY gets your groove on!

#4 Rev up the MONEY vibe 

– When you take $ out of the ATM, whip out a pen and add numbers to it. E.g. if it shows $5,000  make it $50,000 or $15,000. Pick a number that feels GOOD to you and makes you smile. When bills show up, how about being appreciative of  the $ in your bank that lets you pay them? I usually say a little thanks and pretend its money coming in hehe.   

#5 Cultivate Trust and an Inner Knowing

that things always work out in your highest interest even if you can’t see that at the moment. Don’t be attached to having it the way you want. Ok we all get attached sometimes but if you can let that go (by focusing on what’s really behind that desire – happiness, love, joy etc.) you’ll find that you can be happy here and now. Practice makes perfect so keep practicing this belief till it starts feeling real to you.   

#6 Use your environment!I

  have little pretty sticky notes with short goals like “work 15 hours a week ” and “100 articles to my site by 2021″ stuck on my wall so I can see them all the time and keep focused. Think of how you’ll feel when that goal manifests and be that way now.  

#7  Pictures!!

 LOTS of photos of friends, good times at beaches, patios, concerts etc – pix of times you were really happy – create a picture wall and look at it when you need a vibe upper. Also a reminder of all that’s already good in your life and an indication of just how much you have ALREADY manifested.

How To Manage Confusion & Overwhelm

There are days when everything seems perfect. When life seems to be flowing smoothly.. you get a new client, make a big sale, your boss loves you, people rave about you, your partner is happy and loving, the kids are being angels, and progress is effortless.

And then there are the days mired in confusion, when nothing makes sense, when your wonderful new idea seems unattainable, your dreams seem distant and you can’t seem to get anything right.

What then? You know it’s a phase, but how do you get out of it? Here are a few tricks I use.

#1 Find the nearest book

Something on personal development, spirituality etc around you and ask “what do I need to know or hear most right now”.

Then open the book randomly. Nine times out of ten the answer will be in your face. I’ve done this without fail many times and always feel peaceful and calm with the result even if I don’t understand it at the time.

#2 Allow the moments of confusion.  

There will be moments of real clarity and just when you think you’ve got it figured out, confusion may set in.

Be OKAY with it for confusion could be your inner critic (known as saboteur) creating fear to stop you from moving ahead, or something else could be in the process of happening that will add to or be even better than you could have imagined.

Whatever the reason, by accepting the state that’s present, you will relax and let go of needing to know right away. And by doing that you’re back in flow again and leaving the door open for change.

#3 Distract your mind by physically moving around

Just going for a walk, listening to music, reading a book – anything that will get you up and moving.

When you are being active, more oxygen goes into the body (esp. the brain which consumes around 20% of the body’s oxygen intake!) and that increases mental abilities, reduces stress and fatigue and boosts the immune system – all of which helps bring in more focus and clarity.

Just try these 3 things the next time you feel overwhelmed and you’ll find it really makes a difference.

25 Simple Health Habits Make a Surprisingly Big Difference

Bad habits can be destructive to your health and can only be combated by replacing them with good ones. These 25 suggestions are aimed at improving everything from your mental to physical health. By following them, you just might be able to see the results instantly.

1. Exercise.

Everyone says to do it, but how many of us have the time? With benefits such as a longer, healthier life, better appearance, and more energy, time should be found. Exercise can be a simple as taking a walk, as fun as a round of tennis, or as fulfilling as a basketball game with the kids. For more tips on simple and fun exercises visit here.

2. Eat five small meals a day instead of three.

This helps deliver a steady intake of nutrients, sugar, and energy to your body throughout the day. In addition, five meals are easier on the digestive and metabolic systems and help reduce your risk of heart disease.

3. Eat fish and Omega 3.

The American Heart Association recommends a healthy, non-fried, serving of fish at least twice a week. The fatty acids they contain have been shown to reduce heart disease. Good sources of this include lake trout, albacore tuna, salmon, tofu, soybeans, walnuts, and flaxseed.

4. Switch from white to whole grains.

One of the most popular staples in the American diet is breads, pasta, and rice made from refined flour. The carbohydrates found in these foods can lead to diabetes, stroke, and heart disease, arthritis, and allergies. Benefits of a whole grain diet include reduced risk of stroke and diabetes, weight loss, healthier arteries, and more. Visit the Whole Grains Council for more information.

5. Snack healthy.

Potato chips, cookies, and other high fat, low yield foods lead to weight gain and other health problems. By switching to health snacks, you can maintain your metabolism while giving your body the nutrition it needs. A list of healthy and delicious snacks can be found here.

6. Eat dairy.

Calcium is known to be important for strong bones and can help prevent high blood pressure, kidney stones, heart disease, and colon cancer. Three glasses of skim milk a day has also been shown to help lose weight and maintain muscle. However, this can be a problem if you are lactose intolerant. Visit here for information on how to get the benefits of dairy without traditional milk.

7. Trade your coffee for green tea.

While providing a jolt of energy, the caffeine in coffee can lead to stress, anxiety, and insomnia. Containing a smaller amount of caffeine, green tea is also an excellent source of antioxidants, which can help prevent cancer and other diseases. Green tea contains epigallocatechin gallate, which is reputed to help conditions such as arthritis, high cholesterol, and an impaired immune system.

8. Drink plenty of water.

Dehydration has been shown to lead to fatigue, headache, and weakness. Most doctors recommend 64 ounces, or eight glasses, of water per day. Make sure to choose filtered water that uses activated charcoal, which removes the impurities and leaves the minerals.

9. Don’t eat before bedtime.

By finishing your last meal at least three hours before bedtime, your body won’t still be digesting when you sleep, leaving you well rested in the morning. Ideal foods for a good sleep include whole grains, natural yogurt, and milk. Be sure to stay away from pork or caffeine before bed, as they contain stimulants.

10. Eat breakfast.

Those who skip breakfast may think they are getting ahead on time or weight loss, but they are wrong. Eating a healthy breakfast, such as egg whites and fruit, can jump start your metabolism, actually helping you lose weight while having more energy. For a list of quick and healthy breakfasts, visit here.

11. Eat slower.

Now that you know what to eat, learn how to eat it properly. By taking smaller bites and eating slower, you can lose weight, help your digestive system, and reduce stress. For more information and tips, visit Slow Food.

12. Take the stairs.

Those who work in an office are constantly condemned to sit at a desk for eight hours. By taking the stairs, instead of an elevator or escalator, they can sneak in some exercise to increase heart rate, get the metabolism going, and help the digestive process.

13. Wash your hands.

One of the most common ways to spread germs and catch an illness is through dirty hands. Best times to wash are before meals, after using the bathroom, and after handling garbage or other contaminated things. Make sure to use hot water and soap, or if unavailable, an alcohol based gel.

14. Wear sunscreen.

Non-melanoma skin cancer is the most commonly diagnosed cancer in the United States. It is caused by over exposure to the ultraviolet rays found in the sun’s light and tanning beds. Be sure to choose an SPF or 30 and higher, or wear a hat when out in the sun.

15. Laugh.

Research has shown that the benefits range from strengthening the immune system to reducing food cravings, and even increasing your threshold for pain. It is also essential for relieving stress. Don’t feel like laughing? Then watch a funny show or get with friends to get you started.

16. Get socially active.

Joining a club, team, or volunteer group helps people be active and gives them something to look forward to. Also, these friends provide an outlet for relieving stress, giving advice, and sharing a good time.

17. Drive slower.

Car accidents are a leading cause of injury and death. By taking more time to focus on driving, you can avoid clumsy drivers and watch for road hazards, all while saving money on gas. Slow drivers are also less stressed, and reduced stress is far more important than shaving a few minutes off your commute.

18. Try meditation.

Stress does an amazing amount of damage to the body, and studies show that meditation is a simple and effective way to fight it. It helps regulate breathing, which can help eliminate the toxins inside your body. For a quick instructional guide on meditation, visit here.

19. Brush and floss.

Just as your mother said, brushing and flossing your teeth actually does help you grow big and strong. Build up of plague on the gums and teeth finds it way into the bloodstream and can have serious health consequences. Associated risks include heart disease, stroke, diabetes, and low birth weight of babies in pregnant women.

20. Take your vitamins.

Regardless of your gender, age, and special needs, a daily vitamin is essential to a healthy lifestyle. They can prevent disease, give you more energy, and are an easy way to get nutrients. Learn what vitamins you should be taking by doing some simple research. This resource has more information on everything from antioxidants to vitamins for wellness.

21. Stop drinking soda.

With outrageous sugar and calorie content, soda is one of the most addictive and destructive habits of the everyday American. Even diet sodas are harmful to the body, as they contain artificial sweeteners and often take the place of healthier beverages such as water, skim milk, and whole juice. For tips on how to eliminate soda and healthy alternatives, visit here.

22. End toxic relationships.

If you have a friend or significant other who is causing a great deal of stress in your life, ending this relationship can have an immense positive impact on your health. Emotional abuse can lead to loss of enthusiasm, problems with self confidence, anxiety, and most of all: stress. A list of the signs of this relationship, along with tips for combating it can be found here.

23. Say “no” to drugs.

According to MedLinePlus, drug abuse results in around 40 million serious illnesses or injuries among people in the United States every year. Those who become addicts often begin by just trying drugs such as marijuana, heroin, or cocaine. Once they give in, users are more likely to repeat, leading to things such as missed or lost work, crime, and serious health problems. The National Institute on Drug Abuse has more information including warning signs, tips for saying no, information on a variety of drugs, support groups, and more.

24. Quit smoking.

Easier said than done, cigarettes have been proven to increase the risk for heart disease, cancer, and many other diseases. Stopping this habit is difficult due to the nicotine withdrawal, but once accomplished, smokers can immediately feel a difference in their health. The American Cancer Society has a Do’s and Don’ts Guide for Quitting Smoking, along with QuitLines and other support.

25. Plan for health.

By doing things such as preparing meals beforehand and making time for exercise, you can ensure that you will have the time and energy for a healthy life. Because no one follows a diet or exercise routine by accident, planning is essential.

7 Steps for Forgiveness and Letting Go of Anger and Hurt

Just recently, I’ve had the amazing opportunity to review Kristin Robertson’s e-book “A Forgiveness Journal” wherein she talks about her journey from anger to forgiveness in the face of “betrayals and abandonment”.

And how forgiveness changed her life for the better, as it can yours.

I was particularly struck by “Forgiveness is like letting yourself out of a prison”.

Indeed, when you can’t forgive someone, guess who suffers? Often, the other person’s moved on, while days, months and sometime, even years later, you’re still carrying the burden.

Sound familiar at all? This was definitely true for me till a few years ago!

Another point she makes is that holding grudges can also make you physically sick.

I’m thinking back to one of my mentors and how she developed (and subsequently cured herself of) breast cancer TWICE in her life.

Each time, it was the result of anger and unexpressed feelings she harbored around the 2 main men in her life (death of her brother and the end of a major love relationship) and forgiveness / self healing played a big part in her recovery.

So WHY forgive and how can one get to the point of peace? The main points (and challenges) have been described early on:

  • Forgiveness is not an easy path to choose
  • You develop the ability to forgive at your own pace
  • Forgiveness is a decision and a process (you can CHOOSE to forgive – sense the freedom in that?)
  • The cost of not forgiving is compromised health, unhappiness, and an attachment to the past
  • The path to happiness is forgiveness (Boy, can I ever relate to this one! The hardest part for me has been letting go of my righteous anger in the past. And the subconscious desire to play victim.. )

This isn’t just another book on forgiveness; it’s a 7 step process using exercises and journaling  to help you work through this healing process.

1) Identify Your Feelings

What are you really feeling? Anger is the expression of other feelings like betrayal, abandonment, fear, frustration, resentment, guilt, anxiety, unworthiness etc that lie beneath. A sign that your basic needs like integrity, safety, security, love and acceptance are not being met. Acknowledge these feelings.

2) Talk it Out

– Next, you need to talk about these feelings to help process them (there’s an exercise in the journal you can use to share your story). The best part? She advocates sharing your story no more than three times, after that it’s time to move on. Excellent advice borrowed from Native American traditions.

3) Change Your Viewpoint

– Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. In some cases this may be extremely hard so a lot of patience and time may be required. Look at any part you may have played in the situation and be watchful of mind self-pity, anger, revenge, and victim thinking.

4) Gain Perspective

– This step is especially helpful to those who need to forgive themselves for past actions that they regret. At this stage of the process, the heart chakra represents the transition from ego-based energy centers in the human body to spirit-based energy centers.

5) Let Go

– You might be clinging to several reasons not to let go. For example, perhaps you are receiving sympathy from others when you talk about your pain or have tied your self-image and self-worth to being the victim in your grievance story. In other words, what are the payoffs keeping you stuck?

Reminds me of a story my dad told me about 2 monks who’d taken the vow of celibacy and were at a river bank when they saw a young woman struggling to cross.

Without a word, one of the monks lifted her in his arms and crossed the river, putting her down on the other side. The 2nd monk was silent for the next 5 miles and then couldn’t stop himself any longer.

“Why did you touch her?!”, he cried out. “We’re not supposed to look at or touch women!”. Said the 1st monk “My friend, I put her down 5 miles ago, you’re the one who is still carrying her in your mind..”

6) Take Action

– The previous step was about clearing the energy around your hurt and anger. This next step is about deciding if any action needs to be taken – eg: a letter to be written, talk to be had. Whatever you feel is needed to truly let go and move on.

7) Bless the Other

– Possibly the hardest of all. You may be thinking “I’m no Mother Teresa, I can forgive but I can’t wish them well”. And yet, you can. One day. If you choose.

Completing this step will give you the biggest gift you could get – freedom and peace of mind. The book ends with a healing prayer of peace and more exercises to help you process your feelings.